tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post7715994459485890324..comments2024-03-29T09:16:26.776+02:00Comments on Ecuador Joannan silmin - Ecuador in my eyes: May you grow to be as beautiful as God meant you to be when He thought of you firstKiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-20523568272375896892014-02-28T01:21:10.411+02:002014-02-28T01:21:10.411+02:00Thank you, CatherineThank you, CatherineKiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-78802284111410827852014-02-28T01:20:53.583+02:002014-02-28T01:20:53.583+02:00Thank you! And I'm glad you can see the good i...Thank you! And I'm glad you can see the good in your own country.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-31880081286504202162014-02-28T01:20:23.026+02:002014-02-28T01:20:23.026+02:00I think we need to find a balance, Petro. I wouldn...I think we need to find a balance, Petro. I wouldn't want my son to have to take care of himself like his father had to. He washed his own clothes since he was six, went to the city to study at twelve and two years later started taking care of his younger siblings while he was studying. He cooked for them, washed their clothes and cleaned the house. And they saw their parents only on weekends and holidays when they went to the town to visit them.<br />It's a hard life and I wouldn't want my son go through the same thing.<br />On the other hand, I do want him to learn to be responsable and independant, according to his age. And sometimes that is very difficult because he is the only child and he's used to be the center of the attention.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-76743822309508511162014-02-28T01:18:27.932+02:002014-02-28T01:18:27.932+02:00This comment has been removed by the author.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-89656619197243028082014-02-28T01:15:52.860+02:002014-02-28T01:15:52.860+02:00Thank you, Philippa. And it's true, it's s...Thank you, Philippa. And it's true, it's sad and frightening. It's a tough situation because people need to eat and their farms are further in the jungle, far away from towns and villages. Meanwhile they want their children to have an education but that means staying in the village where the school is, without the parents. And taking care of your life, the house, and your younger siblings.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-36456220449509380752014-02-28T01:13:17.520+02:002014-02-28T01:13:17.520+02:00I think there is balance. It is hard for me to com...I think there is balance. It is hard for me to compare with US because I have never been there. But in the last years the parents, and legislation, have become more and more overprotective.<br />And people are spending more time in driving their children around to their after school practices and activities. And also spending more money in their children. It's not everyone, but it is an on-going trend.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-30325120092127426432014-02-27T05:47:24.682+02:002014-02-27T05:47:24.682+02:00What an interesting contrast. It's always inte...What an interesting contrast. It's always interesting to see how cultures are different.Catherine | Fit Armadillohttp://fitarmadillo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-36245793984966663112014-02-26T17:56:03.282+02:002014-02-26T17:56:03.282+02:00This is so sad, you just gave me a does of humble ...This is so sad, you just gave me a does of humble pie. We are spoiled her in the US, thank you for sharing your story and your country. Mama to 5https://www.blogger.com/profile/05540239844969629644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-6003390027590303312014-02-26T17:41:42.119+02:002014-02-26T17:41:42.119+02:00My parents used to do the same, look after their s...My parents used to do the same, look after their siblings from a very early age and they have a hard time understanding why my sister and I are so protective to our daughters and don't let them be more mature. Truth is, we only have 1 child, unlike my parents that used to have 5 and 10 other siblings, they don't have siblings to learn from or look after, someone else has to do the job and that's us, mothersPetro Neaguhttp://theseamanmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-78930586298277047912014-02-26T15:09:20.064+02:002014-02-26T15:09:20.064+02:00A very interesting portrait Joanna. Quite frighten...A very interesting portrait Joanna. Quite frightening though, the life of children without much time to enjoy childhood.Philippa Reeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237512770210550162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-56141586001339760582014-02-26T07:27:44.210+02:002014-02-26T07:27:44.210+02:00This is very interesting. I have a fascination wi...This is very interesting. I have a fascination with other cultures and particularly in the Nordic countries. It seems like such a different place from the US. It sounds like the sweet spot is right between the two cultures - not too overprotective, but not too underprotective either. I think I was kind of in the middle - a little overprotective, but I always made my children do lots of chores, be responsible for their own schoolwork, and be a respectful and helpful part of the family. But it seems like I do spend a lot of time driving them around to places and I spend a lot of money on camps and other activities for them to do. Sometimes I really take the time to point out to him that I have spent a big chunk of time waiting for him to finish practice, or that I've spent money on things he wanted when I could have used it for bills or other things that I would have liked for myself. AdriansCrazyLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04463022076036044242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-2011042820299189182014-02-26T05:39:56.511+02:002014-02-26T05:39:56.511+02:00I can see the heart break in both, and the beauty ...I can see the heart break in both, and the beauty too. I am not sure I could embrace the cultural norm of leaving my children unattended. I'm a nervous wreck if they're off in another room and I can't see them. ;) My SIL dated a man who was born and raised in Helsinki, and she doted on him even when he was grown. :) I dote on my grown children too, when I see them, which isn't often enough since they both live in different states now. :)mail4roseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17850985344834209198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-73069525240300454212014-02-26T03:43:35.421+02:002014-02-26T03:43:35.421+02:00It is a tough enviroment, Chasity, and, sad to say...It is a tough enviroment, Chasity, and, sad to say, not all of the children make it. It is good to have a caring and generous heart like yours. The good thing is that there are changes happening and people are starting to apreciate their children. The most important thing is to educate women and get them to have children later on. Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-88100323560434335642014-02-26T03:38:39.893+02:002014-02-26T03:38:39.893+02:00How sad. Children need to be kids. It breaks my he...How sad. Children need to be kids. It breaks my hear when I hear a child forced to grow up when they are only 3 years old. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10304701332216772385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-43577261537192353382014-02-26T02:25:37.255+02:002014-02-26T02:25:37.255+02:00Wow those are some major differences. I wish kids ...Wow those are some major differences. I wish kids in privileged areas knew how hard other kids have it.<br /><br />Michelle F.bxcrochethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11929175024619863740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-64810611297129769612014-02-26T01:36:33.339+02:002014-02-26T01:36:33.339+02:00This made me want to cry. "Deaths and disabil...This made me want to cry. "Deaths and disability from burnings, falling, choking, poisoning, drowning and other home accidents are sadly all too common."Chasityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08448982393953689492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-88169457312706435882014-02-26T01:18:37.444+02:002014-02-26T01:18:37.444+02:00Teen bregnancy is more of a rule here than the exc...Teen bregnancy is more of a rule here than the exception, Heather. There is a lot of struggle and having children young and marrying young is part of Kichwa culture. But there is a cultural shift going on with the change in their lifestyle. I hope it will bring positive changes with it.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-64003429446593460012014-02-25T23:33:49.885+02:002014-02-25T23:33:49.885+02:00This is such a unique post and a great reminder of...This is such a unique post and a great reminder of the contradictions that our world live in. It is a shame that there are still children around the world going through this. Thank you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05603869212703084631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-9853809550969102692014-02-25T23:23:23.852+02:002014-02-25T23:23:23.852+02:00You definitely see Finland and even U.S. kids in a...You definitely see Finland and even U.S. kids in a different light. So much struggle in Ecuador. I have read about the young age that girls have babies there. Its sad, but I also see its so hard to get out of that life style. Its an endless cycle. But I see you have so much love in your heart for the people of Ecuador. Heather Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01243422900051057070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-10828557229969228562014-02-25T22:21:52.019+02:002014-02-25T22:21:52.019+02:00Kichwas aren't latinos, Kathryn. They are an i...Kichwas aren't latinos, Kathryn. They are an indigenous nationality here in Ecuador and their culture is very different from the surrounding latino main culture. It is much more similar to what you are saying. Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-55940410344121271582014-02-25T22:20:25.586+02:002014-02-25T22:20:25.586+02:00It is changing every day, Robert. This is a produc...It is changing every day, Robert. This is a product of 50 years of cultural change and challenge. Kichwa people here in the Amazon have had only those 50 years to adapt to the modern world and all that it offers. The changes in their culture have been huge and they struggle to keep their traditional values, and at the same time they want what is atractive in the modern society. Sadly the atractive parts aren't always best for them, like alcohol for instance.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-50227859638264682014-02-25T22:18:07.962+02:002014-02-25T22:18:07.962+02:00I think both practices are heart-breaking, the dev...I think both practices are heart-breaking, the developed world's model and the developing world's model. And we need to find ways to change.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-62591791729842992792014-02-25T22:17:13.788+02:002014-02-25T22:17:13.788+02:00Thank you, Kristi. That is what I try to do, every...Thank you, Kristi. That is what I try to do, everyday :)Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-76575030080006264592014-02-25T22:16:25.942+02:002014-02-25T22:16:25.942+02:00I agree with you, Tori, it is important to give ch...I agree with you, Tori, it is important to give children responsabilities. Like I say in the post, there are good and bad things in both parenting models. What is sad here in Ecuador, is that children are abandoned without their parents for so much time. In Finland it's sad that they are so smothered that they cannot learn to be responsable and be truly themselves.<br />In my opinion the important thing is the balance. Children should be responsable, but they should not be left alone for the week, to tend themselves, feed themselves and look out for themselves. It is not healthy and it is way too dangerous.<br />But they should not be served and made feel that they are entitled to have anything and everything, without lifting even a finger, just their voice.<br />Finding that balance is the hard thing. That is why I started with developed countries problems. The situation is not perfect and there is something very wrong with the way children are raised, and we need to asses that and change. But we should not idealize the situation in developing countries either. The ones who grow up are survivors and scarred for life in most cases.Kiittäkää Aina ja Kaikestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264486975627673705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2997377041096641755.post-71594627438917629172014-02-25T21:33:24.566+02:002014-02-25T21:33:24.566+02:00Thank you for the information about Ecuador. I rea...Thank you for the information about Ecuador. I really didn't know much about traditions and culture responsibility. Other latino countries also have the female children from a young age learn to do things for themselves. so that when they grow up they do not have to rely on a man. I hate to think about all those YOUNG children taking care of YOUNGER babies. scary and sad at the same time.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16329132182587806725noreply@blogger.com